Stop playing the blame game!

I wanted to apologize for not writing much sense lately. Guess I'm just waiting for things to brighten up. Sometimes it does make me wonder though -- what am I waiting for? This life that we're living might be THE life god wanted me to live. So, I wanna live it everyday without any hopes or expectations in the future.

Doesn't it happen to you whenever something doesn't turn out according to your expectations, you tend to blame anything - life, a dog, a friend, yourself ( I do this a lot), or even ''fate''.

When we talk about fate, destiny or luck, I find all of them to be unfair sometimes. I know many who think they don't even exist.

Luck - People who ALWAYS get their way without even doing anything.

Fate - People do good things but end up facing bad things (You might wanna call it ''karma'' or a base depending on your previous birth). Or, even the other way round - Bad people always always live longer and get to do all the evil things and turn out okay.

Destiny - Finding a soulmate or a partner? Think about it - just because you fall in love with someone in the same country, living in the same proximity as you and also who really cares about you and gets you. doesn't mean he/she is your soulmate. He/she may be one of the perfect partners fr you.One can have the same kind of a person in many other countries. But you won't really travel around the world to go hunt them, would you? Or, rather wait for them to come to you? Before calling someone your soulmate, think about this.

Last, but not the least, when we talk about Life -- I don't understand how life plays a part in destroying something you wanted. We are living life not using it. It's just easy to blame life like blaming god -- we can't see it.

Just stop blaming life, fate, destiny, luck, yourself, god blah blah blah!

I'm not saying that we should blame ourselves or try to blame any of those terms which we don't even know if they exist. But I think we should have a look at what we do so that we get to be aware of the consequences later.

Let's face it -- everyone's a sinner. A sin can be big or small. Even killing an ant is a sin. Killing 1000 ants would count as a bigger sin. What we do in our everyday life counts every moment! If anything bad is happening to us, there's a reason why it does. Even if you try to be a total angel all your life and end up losing someone or getting betrayed, rollback and try to see what did you to whom or if you did any wrongs. It's not possible that you didn't commit any err.

Also, on the bright side -- if anything good is happening, it means you've done something to deserve it. Even if it means to saving an ant. (Yes, I know the ant example is very very stupid but it counts, you know).

And no there's nothing such as less good and more of bad. We may involuntarily commit more sins than good deeds. Exactly how the ratio of incidents shape up in our life.

Let's just stop with the blame game and start accepting our faults and move on with a positive spirit. If not today, you'll definitely be rewarded tomorrow. I know waiting is a pain but doing things without any expectations lets you do things without any constraints. That way you get to do good deeds more than committing sins.

The famous quotes state so too

Live like it's the last day of your life.

Love like you've never loved before

And finally - Love yourself. Not because it'll make you feel better or you're the best or anything but because many people love you to the core and you need to respect their feelings and make them feel special too sometimes. By loving yourself, you'll be happy and you get to see them happy too.

P.S - If this turned out to be a damn boring post, I don't care. This is my blog and my aim is to make you think!

Imperfectly Perfect

Hey all! It's been a while since I wrote something here. Yeah, I know I keep shifting between wordpress and blogger but I missed this template real badly so I just shifted back. There's something weird about this template! It gives me the feel to blog while the others don't. Anyway, enough about templates :|

I've been experiencing this weird thing about myself lately. Don't know if it happens to you guys too but I feel that there are a lot of imperfections within me which according to my friend is the new ''perfect''. Now that's kinda stupid, don't you think? If it's imperfect, it's imperfect! As simple as it is. How can imperfect be perfect? It's like calling ugly the new ''beautiful'' or stupid the new ''amazing''.

Whatever the case is -- I just got to thinking that let's rule out ''imperfections'' for the moment and focus on ''perfect''. What according to you is being perfect? Wait, I get to ask you the questions in the end. First, my take on this. I asked a friend about the perfect girl and according to him this is how the conversation went on

Me: So what kind of a girl are you looking for?

He: She's gotta be perfect.

Me: Yeah, okay! So does a lot of people. Define ''perfect''

He: She has to be beautiful, smart, talented, a great cook, good with the words, communicate fluently, be understanding, have the ability to carry herself well and...

Me: So basically everything.

He: Umm, yeah pretty much

Me: You do realize that's not gonna happen, right? Either way one of the other factors will be missing of conflicting with the other.

He: Yeah, I know

Me: So you do know she does not exist, right?

He: Yup, I know that.

Me: Then why are we having this conversation?

He: 'Cuz you asked me what kinda girl I wanted

Me: Gee.. so?

He: So just because I want it doesn't mean it err she has to exist. Not all wants need to be fulfilled or exist in reality. I know what I want and what I will get will have a major difference.

Me: :| Took you that long to realize that, eh?

Anyway, I realized this conversation was baseless so I switched on to asking a girl about the perfect guy. Again, I interviewed a friend and this is how this talk went --

Me: Alright, I know you want a perfect guy so go ahead and tell me the qualities you want in him

She: Whoa whoa whoa, perfect guy?

Me: Well, yeah. Everybody wants a perfect partner

She: What's the point of wanting a perfect partner when I know I won't get one?

Me: Well, it doesn't hurt to ''hope'', you know.

She: Nevermind. I never wanted a perfect guy but yeah a perfect guy would be someone who's handsome and also kinda cute, someone who understands me, someone who is concerned and caring and doesn't act like a jerk and..

Me: Yeah, all right. Again with the looks and the entire package deal.

She: I'm sorry honey but looks does count in perfect.

Now, you'd enjoy this. This is a fact that good looking people look out for or tend to fall for people who are average joe looking so that they don't feel insecured or feel that their thunder is being stolen away. And the best part is if both are good looking, ego clashes are bound to happen.

This doesn't apply only to looks -- even when it comes to skill-sets and other talents -- one always gels well with a less or a higher skilled partner so that the dominating factor doesn't kick in.

BTW, I just realized that this became way too much of a relationship post. What I'm trying to say is that what you have is already perfect. Don't try to make it more perfect which is the new "imperfect". Vice versa also helps. Yeah, sometimes you miss those imperfections and perfection can just bite you in the dash.

Wardrobe Dilemmas!

It's 2011 right? The year has worn new clothes. So should this blog, right? But iThoughts has been painfully taking a lot of time in fitting into an outfit that really suits it. I've spent hours and hours on this and I must say that it's an interesting task. Bring on the templates and my mind goes ''whoosh!''. I've been spending way too much time on choosing an attractive template rather than focusing more on the content which is totally blank btw. Yeah, sad crap counts as blank!

Then I realized something that we ''girls'' tend to focus too much on the dress rather on what's inside. No offence to the females including me but it's true. I don't know if it's a generalized or a biased opinion that I'm having but I've seen most of the guys going just for the content and not paying much heed to the way their blog looks. They just want the stuff! Err :| I mean they just use the blog for writing and not for showing it off. While we are too into the looks and the widgets and the gadgets and all the blogorama <3

Did I talk too much about boys, girls and blogs already? I'm sorry I'll stop!

The hunt is still on. If anyone can gimme some nice suggestions, that'd be great. You can write a guest post on iThoughts =D

Later! <3

Switching modes.

A very happy new year to all of you. When I say all, I mean the few number of closed ones and a lot of strangers visiting this site.

Last year has been on and off for me. It has been a weirdly changing wave in my life. I experienced the best and the worst. Never explored life like the way I did it last year. Frankly, I learned a lot.

Right now the few most important things in my life that I want to do or rather focus on -

  • the people I love - my parents, my best friends and myself (yes! Is that surprising?)

  • be positive and pray for better things

  • focus on my health (I really have to do this)

  • never let the negative in me spread around because it brings down people who are close to me

  • GROW UP!

  • Start earning - Yeah, I have to. :(

  • Not kill the ''hope'' in me that everything happens for a reason. For the better or worse? Let god decide.

Seeyah till I come up with more stuff.